Dinner Date?

So I have a confession.  When I reached out to the adoption community before starting the process, I often was met with a "Congratulations! I'll be happy to share our story with you… would you like to come over for dinner?"  Gulp.  Dinner?!  Like at someone's house?  With people I don't know?  My picky, weird eating habits are impossible to hide and not nearly normal enough to explain to other adults.  My introverted side wins over and I suddenly start sweating looking for a paper bag to breathe in.  I pretty much never took the bait.  Not because I wasn't serious, but because I was still living within my comfort zone.  

Bauhahaha. {out of control laughter} 

My comfort zone has left me long ago through this process. And will time and time again, I know.  I am surrendering to that because I believe big things happen when I keep stepping forward even if it feels unfamiliar and at times scary.   What's taken you out of your comfort zone and into a new one?  A new baby, a new calling, marriage, a move, a death, school, divorce, new friends, etc..  Maybe nothing is forcing you into a new comfort zone.  I encourage you to take the leap, feel unsafe, and step outside your comfortable walls.  Whether it's going to a new meet and greet of some sort, or starting a new hobby or it's switching careers, growing your family, or saying yes to something bigger.  I think you'll find it's worth the sweating and paper bag breathing.  

Moms… remember  before kids when you were politely modest and dreaded the yearly vagina check ups?  Remember when you always locked the door to pee? Remember when you had a flat tummy you didn't show off nearly enough? Fast forward post babies and now don't you love how your breast might as well be elbows! And a gyno visit is like having coffee with your old college roommate… Don't forget to ask the doctor if that's your bladder playing peek-a-boo with your vagina? (It is though.)  And you sometimes forget to shut the door at a public restroom because you're just peeing after all.  Oh and no one notices the maternity jeans a year later and yoga pants every other day. (wink, wink).  Having babies sure has a way of accelerating us into new comfort zones, don't they?   

Being a mom is an easy example of how new callings can takes us out of our comfort zones and create new ones whether we like it or not.  Sometimes the transition from the old comfort zone to the new one is flawless, sometimes it's a hot-mess, and sometimes we wish we had a do over. But the transition happens wether we like it or not and because we are strong women- we find our new way.  I love my mom jeans.  I love my babies. And I love my baby daddy. I have had an easy baby and a not-so-easy baby.  Both amazing kids.  They each are loved fiercely and unconditionally.  

And you know what?  I've got more love to give.  Also, more time, more rooms, and more advocating.  I have a husband and kids cheering me on as they feel the same- and a marriage and family built on a solid foundation.  And a big fat feeling deep inside my heart that I am doing exactly what I have been called to do.     

So what's that mean? My comfort zones are being left behind again as I open my heart to love more babies that I didn't birth this time around.  I am saying yes.  Hello new comfort zone.  (If you ever wondered why we are adopting- this is why!  There's a need and we feel called to it.)  

Saying yes was the easy part for us… it made sense.  But saying yes doesn't land a baby on my doorstep. Questions we hear a lot: Why not more biological children? How did you decide to adopt internationally from China? How has the process been? How much longer? What age? Is Clay on board? Special needs? How do you afford $35,000 to adopt? How do you connect with others? Where do I begin?  

And now because this journey is so very personal to me and I am way outside my comfort zone and I like it, I ask….

Want to have a dinner date?  

...And don't be fooled- we will definitely just meet at Chick-fil-A.  Cooking is way out of my comfort zone. ;)